You’ve already optimized your way into a high-achieving life.
Now you just want to be free inside it.
I’m here to help you find your way back home to yourself.
A four-hour, 1:1 Enneagram intensive for the high-achieving mother who has read the books and done the therapy, and still feels like a stranger in a life that looks right from the outside. Led by an Enneagram 2 and licensed therapist (LMFT, PMH-C), for women who are done saving self-help posts and ready for clinical depth that gets to the root.
For the woman who’s ready to put the over-functioning down and be guided home. By application, a few spaces each month.
If optimizing built the cage, knowing yourself is the way out.
Most personality tools hand you a label and leave you there. The Enneagram is different. It is a map of the exact strategy you built to be loved, and the exact way you abandon yourself under pressure. It does in one clear picture what years of books kept circling: it shows you why you do what you do, so you can stop performing it. That is the fastest route i know from insight to real change.
Not every high-achieving woman
actually loves her life.
If you can check these off, you’ll know you want to:
- you’re the one everyone leans on, and you can’t remember the last time you leaned.
- you’ve hit every goal you set, and each one felt like enough for about a week.
- you look fine. you are not fine. and you’ve gotten expert at the difference.
- your worth still rises and falls with what you got done today.
- you love the life you built, and quietly wonder where you went inside it.
- you’re not afraid of the work. you’re afraid of who you’ll meet when you finally stop performing.
You don’t need to become someone new.
You need to come back to yourself.
The work doesn’t change who you are. It returns you to her.
- Your nervous system exhales, even on the hard days.
- You catch the pattern in the middle of it, not three days later in your journal.
- Your “no” stops requiring an explanation.
- The version of you that was performing finally rests.
- Your marriage gets harder for a season, then honest.
- You become recognizable to yourself again.
This is the recognition you’ve been having for years. Now it has a method.
Four stages.
One direction.
Most personal growth content stops at “know thyself.” That’s not enough. Pattern recognition without grief work just makes you a more articulate version of the woman you were before. These four stages are how I move clients from recognition to embodiment, without skipping the part underneath.
HALT
See the pattern as it’s happening, in real time, in your mothering. Your Enneagram type isn’t your personality, it’s the survival adaptation running the show.
OWN
Name what the pattern is costing you. Your marriage. Your nervous system. The version of mothering you actually wanted. Naming the cost is what makes change non-negotiable.
MEET
Go underneath the pattern to what it was protecting. The grief. The fear. The unmet need. The stage most work skips and the only stage that produces lasting change.
EMERGE
Build the new structure from the inside out. Mother, partner, and live from the woman who’s underneath, not the adaptation that’s been performing as her.
Four hours.
Months of progress.
A focused four-hour, 1:1 deep-dive for the woman who has done enough therapy to know patterns intellectually but hasn’t moved them in her body. We walk all four stages of COME HOME in a single, structured session. You leave with language, a map, and the felt sense of the next move.
- A private 60-minute intake call one week prior, so we begin deep instead of from scratch
- Your Enneagram type confirmed with a trained consultant, not a quiz
- The focused three-hour intensive, walking all four stages of COME HOME
- A personalized map and the exact language for your next move
- A written follow-up you will return to long after we finish
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You send a short application. It takes a few minutes, and it is not a sales call.
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I read every application myself to make sure this is the right work for you. If it is not, I will tell you honestly.
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Once we confirm your fit, you choose your date and complete your intake questionnaire.
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We spend four focused hours together. You leave with a map, not just more insight.
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Integration. Your written follow-up keeps the shifts moving in your real life.
I got more out of my four hours with Emily than I had from years… I am moving forward with less anxiety and significantly more clarity.Enneagram Intensive client
Working with Emily… I started to finally feel more free and more confident.Client
Why Enneagram?
Understand the "why" behind your patterns
Finally break free from autopilot reactions and make conscious, aligned choices.Transform your relationships
Understand how different types communicate, handle stress, and show loveStop people-pleasing and reclaim your identity
Reconnect with who you are beyond your roles and obligationsAccelerate your personal growth
No generic self-help advice here, making your growth feel less overwhelming and more sustainableGain therapeutic insight with real-world application
I offer a unique blend of clinical and certified CP Professional expertise
Let your Enneagram type lead to your transformation
Self-discovery and healing made possible through powerful personality typing
Find the Right Way to Work Together
The Enneagram Clarity Consult
Ideal for individuals seeking clarity, confidence, and a strong foundation for growth.
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A guided Enneagram typing experience including a professional assessment, a live type interview, and a personalized debrief to help you accurately identify your core Enneagram type and understand how it shows up in your life.
The Enneagram Blueprint
COMING SOON
Ideal for individuals seeking definitive certainty, a solid foundation for growth, and expert guidance before diving deeper.
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A structured, two-session Enneagram experience including a professional assessment, a live interview, and a dedicated debrief session to help you accurately identify your core type and build a clear blueprint for how your patterns influence your entire life.
The Reclaimed Woman™ Intensive
Ideal for women seeking identity-level integration, transformational clarity, and the courage to finally stop abandoning themselves for the sake of connection.
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A high-touch, highly individualized Enneagram Identity Intensive that integrates Enneagram structure with attachment science and nervous system awareness. This deep-dive experience will help you uncover the root cause of self-abandonment, confusion, and disconnection, leading to a wholehearted sense of self.
Listen Now
Listen in on my conversation with the Typology podcast to talk about the heart of the Enneagram Two. Specifically how desire, boundaries, and the need to be needed shape our relationships. Tune in below or wherever you get your podcasts.
FAQs
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No. This is consultative, insight-oriented work, not psychotherapy.
While I am a licensed therapist, this experience is designed to help you understand your patterns, motivations, and emotional structure, not to treat mental health diagnoses or process trauma. It’s time-limited, focused, and structured.
Clients often choose this work because they want clarity and direction without committing to ongoing therapy.
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Most cases, yes, absolutely! Especially if you’ve read the books but still feel stuck in the same patterns.
Most people know what their type is. Fewer understand how it shows up under stress, in close relationships, or in moments of self-doubt.
This work focuses on integration, not information. If knowing your type hasn’t changed how you relate to yourself or others, this experience often brings a deeper “aha.”
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Self-awareness alone doesn’t change patterns, context and application do.
The goal of this work isn’t insight for insight’s sake. It’s helping you understand why your patterns exist, what they protect you from, and how to relate to yourself differently in real life.
Clients often notice changes in how they communicate, make decisions, and set boundaries, not because they’re trying harder, but because things finally make sense.
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No. The Enneagram is not used here as a label or box. It’s used as a map of protective strategies.
Your type describes how you learned to stay safe, connected, or in control, not who you are at your core. The goal is not to identify with your type, but to loosen its grip so you have more choice.
This work is about freedom, not fixation.
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Not at all. Many clients are functioning well on the outside but feel internally disconnected, overextended, or unclear. Others come during transitions, identity shifts, or moments of re-evaluation. This work is less about fixing something that’s broken and more about refining how you relate to yourself as you grow.
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That’s completely okay.
You don’t need a perfectly articulated goal to apply, curiosity and openness are enough. The structure of the intake and intensive is designed to help clarity emerge, even if you can’t name it yet.
Many clients apply because something feels “off” or repetitive, even if they can’t explain why.
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The experience is deep, but it’s also contained and intentional.
Rather than stretching insight out over months, this work creates a focused space to explore patterns with clarity and support. Many clients prefer this approach because it’s efficient, grounded, and respectful of their time and energy.
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The Enneagram is much more than a personality tool! The Enneagram tells you things about yourself, but is primarily a tool for growth. It’s not what you do, but why you do it! It helps you see your personality (or ego) that you wear as a mask and shows you how to grow beyond the traits of your personality. You are more than your type!
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No, You are only one type (number) and that number does not change throughout your life. Online tests are not always accurate, which is why I recommend a live typing interview to get you started on your journey. I will help you determine your top possible types when we meet!
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No way! The Enneagram provides a map for you to do both psychological and spiritual work, but it is not tied to any specific deity or religion.
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Online tests are not always accurate. The *best* way to identify your type is to do a live typing session and then go over your results/explore more about the Enneagram afterwards. I’d love to help you get started on your Enneagram journey!
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